We have friends—whether real friends or just acquaintances we want to be friends with—in the neighborhood, at school or workplace, communities we belong to in the past and organizations we belong to in the present. There are also those who are friends of our friends and friends of friends of our friends. Multiply that deep down and one’s friends circle could cover at least halfway around the globe.
Facebook revolutionized how people interact socially. People no longer have to wait minutes or seconds to respond to a person’s query or post or comment on any issue discussed, shared or promoted. Users can do that real-time. Thanks to Mark Zuckerberg and associates.
For non-celebrities, having as many people in the Friends or Followers list could be an accomplishment or even achievement, as the feeling of getting many Likes may give an adrenalin rush to some. However, there is a downside to this. Isn’t it that many crimes had been committed thru FB? Scammers and fraudsters proliferate on the Net. And most of the time it’s the mentally weak that become victims.
FB has also become a ground for dating and sex, seeking those of similar interests, or even the opposite. Sometimes it goes out of hand. How many times have we read or heard about people getting robbed, hoodwinked, raped or even murdered by people whom they met only thru Facebook?
It’s not really a New Year’s Resolution, but it’s just appropriate to clear out FB clutter at the start of the year. It’s like sanitizing our homes — remove all garbage and cleanse the surroundings.
If there’s a button to Add Friend, there’s also an option to Unfriend. Click the Friends button and scroll down to the last option.
What could be a reason to Unfriend someone? The experience may be private and personal or public humiliation. It could have been committed in person or through the Feeds.
At the height of Typhoon Haiyan’s (local name Yolanda) devastation in Central Philippines, people showed their best and worst side. The humane among netizens felt that it was crime to post selfies and food prepared during celebrations.
Those with less-than-human hearts relished in their narcissistic ways, smiling or even laughing, while millions in that part of the globe have only their clothes on their back, nothing to eat and water to drink, crying for the loss of their homes, livelihood and loved ones.
There was an appeal on Facebook, that at least for the next few weeks those who were lucky enough to be alive and still enjoying earth’s bounty to please refrain from posting selfies and food. Many netizens relented. But the obstinate ones even got mad and said things about the situation — some to the point of cursing why they should be prevented to post selfies — when they were reminded of the appeal. Would you continue being friends with those kind of people?
Typhoon Haiyan ended lives. It also ended numerous Facebook friendships.
The social media is used by companies, organizations or persons to advance their interests and positions. To get to the widest audience possible, Facebook charges a fee to promote a Page to a targeted age bracket.
The first feed is usually interesting, and one is enticed to Like Page. As time goes by, the character and personality of the people behind the Page are unmasked by their subsequent posts.
For instance, in the aftermath of Paul Walker’s death, the Photoshop savvy eager-beavers posted photos supposedly of Paul’s disfigured face and body in the morgue. Without much ado, those who have sense and sensibility posted their reaction on the Page and clicked Unlike. It’s better never to get any feed from the org anymore, so as not to be pissed again in the future.
There’s also this org posting amazing photos. True, the photos are amazing, never before seen, but they post every two minutes, flooding and clogging one’s home page. The photos can well be appreciated better if they know what sensible interval is.
Facebook has an option for users to set up Follow. This is in lieu of Add Friend. Mostly, celebrities set their accounts that way.
There is a maximum number allowed in the Friends list. Facebook informs a user when that person can no longer accept friend requests.
But ordinary Joes and Janes can set their account to get Followers, too. When a friend request is not confirmed, the requester is automatically tagged as Follower.
Celebrities or Public Figures have admins that post in their behalf. The irresponsible ones or fraudsters are easily detected.
One Page claiming to be a movement for the presidential platform of an incumbent senator posted an ad for a travel agency and a real estate company. The politician advocates anti-corruption, and here in the Page under the politician’s name, corruption is practiced by whoever created it. Misrepresentation is corruption.
A young celebrity posts snippets of wisdom in his Page. You’d know that it’s not him because his depth actually makes him shallow. He’s not been in the business for a decade yet, has not attended college and not known to be a wide reader. Wouldn’t it be better for him to just post about his projects, photos and activities than be charlatan?
Click the Follow button to Unfollow.
Extreme cases: Report/Block User
Annoyance could be one reason to Report/Block User. But the worst reason is threat.
Not few users get annoyed by others’ posts. It could be because they don’t want being tagged in the most subliminal reference, read about complaints and innuendos or simply do not like stupidity or vulgarity. It could also be the person is a poser, someone who uses other people’s names and photos.
Click the Friends button. Report/Block User is on the second to the last option, just above Unfriend. Click it if and when there’s abuse or threat. That way, whatever the person does to contact or search you again can no longer do it using his or her FB account.
Caution: Never Add Friend if there’s only one photo in the profile. Most likely that is a bogus account or the one who created it has sinister plans.
And just like with anything else, the best way to use Facebook is moderation. It is a very helpful tool, but can also be destructive if one is not careful.
2014 is Year of the Wood Horse. It would be good to clear out garbage and cleanse and sanitize everything, including Facebook.
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